Category: Self-Improvement

Can Moms Have Dreams?

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Do you remember when you were just graduating high school and part of you was so excited to be on your own while the other part was terrified about what you were going to do with your life?

I remember being so torn about what I wanted to study in college. I wanted to study everything! I wanted to be everything! I had so many dreams and goals and plans. Then life happened. It happened in its own way which was nothing like what I had on paper.

Part of my life is exactly what I wanted: a loving husband, sweet and adorable children, and a cozy home. However, as difficult as it is to say out loud, part of my life plan was left out.

For a while I was totally fine with that. I was busy learning to be a mom and adjusting to this season of my life. I gave up all my hobbies and all my friendships because I felt like I didn’t have time for those things. My husband and my kids were my friends and that was all I needed (or could even handle to be perfectly honest).

Then something happened. I started feeling kind of depressed and a little resentful. Be prepared, the not-so-perfect mom and wife part of me is about to be uncovered.

I went through a short period where I would daydream about what it would be like to be just me again. Not mom-me or wife-me, just me. Single, free-me. The me that only had to worry about, me. I would daydream about going back to college and enjoying all the things I felt like I missed out on. I would daydream about traveling to Europe, skydiving in New Zealand, and doing humanitarian work in South America. I dreamed about writing a book, like I’ve wanted to do since kindergarten. I dreamed about having the financial freedom to enjoy life a little more. I even dreamed about renting a hotel room and having a spa day, all by myself.

I think part of this came from turning 30. Man, remember when 30 was old? There’s this scene from the movie, The Switch. Jason Bateman is explaining to this little boy why adults don’t like people to know when it’s their birthday. When the little boy asks why he says, “Because getting old sucks. Most people don’t accomplish what they’d hoped to and they realize that they are most likely not going to. They end up living these quiet lives of denial, and uh… brushing birthdays under the rug just becomes a big part of that.”

I suddenly realized that I was 1/3 of the way through my life and I had failed to accomplish so much. Being a mom is wonderful, but being me is important too isn’t it?

I had to come to grips with the fact that it wasn’t my husband’s or my kids’ fault. It was my own. I squandered my single years. I accomplished a few things but mostly I just got myself into mounds of student loan debt and took too long to graduate from college. Then there was this attitude I was dealing with now. As if my life was basically over. I’m turning 30 and already thinking about life as if I’m 90.

It occurred to me that I still have 2/3 of my life to be more intentional about accomplishing my goals. I can be a mom and still be me, I just have to make it intentional and quit floating through my life as if I have no control over it.

I realize that being a mother is the noblest of callings. It requires tremendous sacrifice and hard work. But does it really mean we can’t do anything else?

I attended a conference a little over a year ago and one of my favorite bloggers spoke. Cara brook from maskcara.com explained how she had to decide whether or not she was going to go forward with her business even though she was a single mom at the time. What she said struck a chord with me and it was the permission I needed to make some changes in my life. She said, “I realized that if I want to encourage my son to dream and to work toward accomplishing his goals, I have to show him that by example. I can’t give up on my dreams or I will be giving him permission to do the same.”

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That was when I got serious about blogging. It seemed an ideal outlet for me and a way to work on my writing. I know I have a book in me someday and I felt like this was a great starting point. It’s something I can do on my own time, in my own way.

It’s been a process of trial and error to balance blogging and motherhood but I feel like I might be getting the hang of it. It’s refreshing to be doing something that makes me feel more like me and being able to connect with other women and old friends through this kind of a platform. Of course, I’m still in the infancy stage but I have big plans and I’m excited about what the future holds.

Writing has made me even more aware of the priceless blessings I have. It’s fun to write about things I’m learning and sharing that with other women. I have been lucky to have so many people who support me and uplift me with their sincere encouragement. Long story short, I’m a much happier mom now.

So can moms have dreams? I say absolutely YES. In fact, I think it should be required for motherhood. I don’t think it’s healthy for us or our kids to be so consumed with their needs and wants that we lose our own identity. I think it’s powerful for a child to grow up with a mom who works toward her own dreams and inspires him to do the same. 

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What is your secret dream? What are you going to do to work toward it? Do you think it’s selfish to think this way?

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10 Tips to a Better Night’s Sleep

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Whenever you get a group of moms together and they start swapping stories and chatting about the hard-knock life of motherhood, you’re bound to hear about sleep deprivation. It is a universal struggle. We know to expect it with our newborns but what about when we can’t use that excuse anymore because our kids are now sleeping through the night? Why is it that we still don’t feel rested in the morning?

I’ve put together a comprehensive list of some things we can do in order to make sleep more of a priority and for those of us who might have a harder time making it to bed early or falling asleep once we’re there.

1. Assess Sleeping Environment

Your bedroom is a sacred place. Use this checklist to create a fortress that will induce sleep:

•   Keep the temperature lower, between 60-67 degrees preferably.

•   Keep it dark with blackout curtains if you need them.

•   Make it a rule that your bed is for sleep and sex only. Creating any other associations (such as working, watching TV, or browsing Pinterest) will create a discord when you climb into bed to sleep.

•   Is it comfortable? Do you look forward to crawling into a soft, lush bed with cloud like pillows and warm blankets? If not, make it a goal to create that, STAT.

2. Calming Nighttime Routine

Just as the parenting books say it is important to create a nighttime routine for your kids to help them sleep, so it is with your routine. If you like to have a few minutes to yourself once the kids are in bed, find a calming activity that you can make a part of your routine. Reading, crocheting, writing, yoga, or stretching are all great ideas. Try not to include electronics in your routine as they can interfere with your ability to fall asleep.

3. Same Sleep Schedule

Part of your nighttime routine will include a non-negotiable bedtime hour. Which should follow with a non-negotiable wake up hour. Working toward going to sleep and getting up at the same time everyday will pay off great dividends in life. It’s difficult when you have young kids who sometimes wake up in the night and require your attention. However, making it a goal and protecting that time as best you can is one of the smartest things you can do for your health.

4. Exercise Daily

Daily exercise has proven to help most people fall asleep at night. It’s a good idea to do something, each day, that gets your heart rate up. It doesn’t have to be a marathon run on the treadmill but something that gets your blood flowing. Try to do it earlier in the day for the best effect.

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5. Power Down Electronics

Screens from any of our electronic devices are a huge problem when it comes to sleep. So many of us plop ourselves in front of the TV, flip open our laptops, or grab our phones to “unwind” at night. The problem is, these activities don’t help us unwind, they stimulate our brain and tell it to stop producing melatonin because the light from these screens suggests it’s daytime.

Try turning these devices completely off or plugging them into a central charging station for everyone’s devices an hour or so before bedtime. This is sure to help you get to bed on time and fall asleep quickly once you’re there.

6. Close the Kitchen

I want to scream every time my kids tell me, well after dinnertime, “I’m hungry!” My response is always the same, “Why didn’t you eat when it was time to eat?” I have made it a habit to warn my kids when they’re ready to get down from the dinner table, “Are you sure you’re done eating? The kitchen is closed as soon as you get down from the table, understood?”

Not only is it annoying to feed my kids when we’re in the middle of our bedtime routine, going to bed on a full stomach can make it difficult to fall asleep. Drinking too many liquids too close to bedtime can cause us to get up in the night to go to the bathroom. If we make it a habit to “close the kitchen” after dinner, we’re much less likely to suffer from these things when we’re trying to fall asleep. I make it clear the kitchen is closed by turning off the lights.

7. Avoid Caffeine, Tobacco, and Alcohol

Caffeine, tobacco, and alcohol can all have a negative effect on our sleep habits. If Diet Coke is your vice and you’re telling me there’s no way you’re going to give it up, consider giving it up after a certain hour in the day. These things can stay in your system for many hours so at least try eliminating them in the afternoon and evening hours.

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8. Dim Lights

A really good way to change gears at home when it’s time to start getting ready for bed is to circle your house and turn off all the overhead lights. I usually leave a lamp on in each room but the difference in brightness is a good sign to your brain that nighttime is approaching and to start producing melatonin.

9. White Noise

The other night, my mom and her sister were talking about when they were young they used to listen to the radio or their records at night to fall asleep. Now they both have this major problem where they can’t sleep some nights because they have a stupid line of a stupid song that gets stuck in their heads. I’m no expert so I can’t say listening to the radio causes this weird problem but I will say, white noise is probably a better idea.

You can use an app on your phone or purchase a white noise machine. This kind of noise isn’t stimulating like music or TV, it’s background noise if you have a hard time turning your brain off at night.

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10. Don’t Lay Awake in Bed

If you still can’t sleep and you’re laying awake in bed, don’t lay there and stress about how you can’t sleep. Get up and do something relaxing for a while. If you’re worried about something, write it down on a post-it note and tell yourself you’ll think about it in the morning. The more you lay in bed stressing, the less likely you are going to fall asleep. Interrupt the pattern and get up for a minute to distract yourself. Try some relaxing yoga or a low-key book.

Of all the things we can do for our health, sleep is one of the most important. It helps regulate every process in our body and mind and helps us to be more effective during our waking hours. With all of the demands of motherhood, we have to commit to protecting this precious asset. If we don’t, it is far too easy to let other things get in the way.

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Have you tried any of these suggestions to help you get a better night’s sleep? Do you have any others? What is the one thing that most often gets in the way of you getting a good night’s sleep?

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6 Favorite Personal Development Books

6 Fave Books SquareI’m kind of a self-improvement junkie. In fact, my family makes fun of me sometimes because there’s always the latest book I’ve read or listened to and I want to share it with everybody. I’ve decided to share a few of my favorites with you in light of my post about lifelong learning. Reading and listening to books that teach me something is one of my favorite ways to learn.

***I have included Amazon affiliate links for each book. That means, that if you choose to purchase a book through one of my links, at no extra cost to you, I will receive a small commission.

The Willpower Instinct1. The Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonigal (audio version) (kindle version)

You will understand willpower on an entirely new level after reading this book. It also has some actionable steps to help strengthen your own willpower. A definite must-read when you feel like you never seem to have enough self-discipline to accomplish your goals. Willpower is just a muscle and the more you use it, the stronger it gets. You can learn how to “urge surf” and overcome things you never thought possible.

The Automatic Millionaire2. The Automatic Millionaire by David Bach (audio version) (kindle version)

I first read this book as a required text for a family finances class I took in college. It is pure genius! It’s so nice to live in a time when there are so many resources to managing your finances and saving for retirement. Long gone are the days of money stashes in the mattress. You can be smart about saving and make it automatic so you don’t even know it’s happening. This book also explains the basics on finances and investing in a way that even I could understand.

Getting Things Done3. Getting Things Done by David Allen (audio version) (kindle version)

This book teaches you how to get everything out of your head and into a system you can trust so that you don’t forget things and you have a clear head at all times. I have a constant list going in my head of things I need to do, would like to do, and stuff I can’t forget. It’s nice to see that someone has come up with a system to organize all of that. It takes a little time to set up the system and a commitment to keep up with it but it can literally change your life!

Duct Tape Parenting4. Duct Tape Parenting by Vicki Hoefle (audio version) (kindle version)

In college I studied a lot about child psychology and developmental and educational theories. I didn’t find this book until later but it is based on Rudolf Dreikurs’ and Alfred Adler’s idea of natural consequences and intrinsic motivation. It is the theory that most resonates with me and teaches that we can help children motivate themselves without punishment or reward but through natural consequences. It’s an amazing read and really helps you question your parenting tactics but offers excellent steps in changing the way you parent. Try it as an experiment and I’m willing to bet you’ll be convinced.

The One Thing5. The One Thing by Gary Keller (audio version) (kindle version)

This is a book that is talked about a lot among entrepreneurs. However, I think it is applicable to all people in whatever their endeavors are. As a mother, I find the “focusing question” invaluable in prioritizing my life and making sure I’m doing what matters most. It helps to cut through the clutter and focus on the one thing that is going to make the biggest difference. It also busts some longtime myths about productivity and achieving the life of your dreams.

5 LL Book6. The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman (audio version) (kindle version)

You all know this is one of my favorites because I’m talking about it all month long! We live in such a disposable society. Our phones only last two years (if that), our computers don’t last much longer, our plates are disposable, our leftovers go to waste, and when something doesn’t work right, we can just take it back to the store for a refund. Even marriage has become disposable. I truly believe that if people would try this experiment before calling it quits, we would see an enormous decrease in the divorce rate. No more would we hear, “We just don’t love each other anymore” or “He doesn’t make me happy.”

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Have I convinced you to read any of these? What are some of your favorites?

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Never Stop Learning

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During my first year of college, while walking toward the bus after classes, I met a surprising woman. She had to have been well into her 80’s or possibly her 90’s. She was classically dressed in a black skirt, white button down shirt, and orthopedic shoes. Her white hair was pulled up in a sleek bun and behind her she wheeled what looked like a heavy backpack. When I first saw her, I thought she was lost. Then, I thought maybe she was a professor. I never guessed she would be a student.

I ran up to her and asked if I could help her with her bag. She was grateful and we walked together toward the science building. I learned that she was a student at this university and she was taking graduate classes in nutrition and food science. This intrigued me. She was quick to admit she was auditing the classes. Her reasons were that she wasn’t after a degree and didn’t want to take up space in a graduate program that could be occupied by younger students looking for a career. She said she was interested in learning about food science and that it was always something that fascinated her. I was absolutely floored. Here I was, a 19-year-old psychology major who was considering changing her major because a graduate degree seemed way too far off to be realistic. Yet here stood a woman, older than my grandma, who was eagerly studying in a graduate program that she would never get a diploma for.

My interaction with this woman impacted my life and completely changed the way I view education. Although I am an advocate of formal education, I majored in it, I am an even bigger advocate of organic learning. For a lot of people, the best kind of learning happens when we aren’t doing it for a grade.

Maybe you think you’re done with school and so your “real learning” has stopped. Maybe you feel like with little kids there is no way you have time to learn. Or maybe you really can’t think of anything you want to learn and so you just keep plugging away at your day-to-day life. Let me assure you that “real learning” happens outside of a classroom, you do have time to learn even with little kids, and there is something you want to learn you just need to make it a priority.

Time learn 2How do I find time to learn?

We cannot make a goal to learn about something without redirecting a chunk of our time to doing it. The extra time does not come out of thin air, we must take it from something we are already doing.

Before you complain that you just don’t have the time, take an honest look at your life. Is every minute of your life really spent doing supremely important things? How many minutes a day do you spend mindlessly scrolling through your Facebook feed? Or pinning random things on Pinterest that you never make the time to try? Do you mindlessly watch episode after episode of New Girl on Netflix at night to “unwind”? While it’s totally fine to take a break occasionally from focus-draining tasks and do something mindless for a few minutes, we have a tendency of letting that train run free and losing a lot of precious time in the name of taking “breaks.”

I guarantee that if you make the use of your time intentional, you will find pockets of time that could be spent strengthening your brain and learning something new. You just have to be conscious about how you actually spend your time and not how you tell yourself you spend it.

What to learn 2What Should I Learn?

There are any number of things we can learn that will improve our life in some way. Here are a list of questions to get you started.

What will help me improve my life right now if I knew more about it?

Maybe you’ve noticed that some moms seem to have it together and make dinner every night when you feel like it is an impossible task. If you knew a little more about cooking or meal planning and prep, could it make that easier for you? What if you looked into make ahead freezer meals? Or maybe your struggle is saving money. You just can’t seem to figure out how to get your head above water. If you knew of different options and strategies out there to help people save money, could you possibly benefit from that?

What have I always been interested in?

What is that one thing you were always interested in but never pursued because of other things that came up in life? In the past, were you able to carry on long, deep conversations about philosophy? Does human anatomy absolutely fascinate you? Or forensic science? Or maybe you’re drawn to studying other cultures or languages. There is no limit to what you can learn if it piques your interest.

What are my hobbies?

Or if you’re a busy mom, what were your hobbies? I know for a long time after I started having kids I gave up on my hobbies because I felt like I didn’t have time anymore. I finally realized that having a hobby is paramount, no matter how much or how little time you have. Did you used to enjoy photography? Or making paper crafts? Or maybe you’ve always wanted to learn to crochet but other things always got in the way. It’s possible to make a little time each week to focus on a hobby.

What do my loved ones need help with?

Is there something someone in your family needs help with right now? Do you have a depressed teenager that you don’t know what to do with? Or a defiant toddler who seems to rule your house? Maybe your husband is trying to start his own business but could benefit from a little help from you. There are ways to learn about all these topics if we make the time for it.

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Now that you know what you want to learn, here is a list of some different ways you can go about it.

Books

Let us never forget the classic, tried and true way of learning, books. There are so many incredible books out there, old and new. There are different ways of reading books. There are physical books, ebooks, and audiobooks. There are abridged versions, nonabridged versions, cliffnotes, and summaries of books. You can buy books, rent books, trade books, or borrow books. You may even already have a book you intended to read but never got around to it. 

One of my favorite things to do while cleaning is listen to books. Since routine cleaning is such a mindless task to me, I can thoroughly enjoy a new book while I do it and it passes the time so much faster. Instead of dreading the task of cleaning the bathroom, I can look forward to it because I get to listen to this awesome book. I usually listen to free books from my local library with an app called overdrive on my phone. Ask your local library if they offer audiobooks and they can probably get you set up. If not, audible has most any book you can think of in audio version. You can try audible for free for a month with two free audiobooks. If you have Amazon Prime, you can get 3 free months of audible, with a free book each month.

Courses

Check your local college for community courses to see if one strikes your fancy. You might also be able to audit real college classes if you’re not interested in earning credits. Or you could try sites such as Udemy or Coursera to find online courses on your topic of interest. Many of them are free.

Podcasts

If you’ve never listened to a podcast then you are missing out! The best way to describe them would be sort of like a radio show I guess, only on demand. So you can search for certain topics or browse different categories. Sometimes I like to even google “best podcasts for…” whatever topic I’m interested in. You can download certain episodes and subscribe to your favorite podcasts. There’s a lot to be learned on the podcast platform.

Clubs or Groups

If you are lucky enough to have clubs or groups in your area dedicated to what you’re interested in, you should definitely consider joining. For instance, say you are interested in learning more about homeschooling your children. If you know of someone in your community who homeschools, get with that person to ask if there are others and if they meet regularly. See if they would mind if you popped in to learn a little more. Or maybe you’re interested in making some homemade decor for your house. Do you know anybody who is particularly good at that? Maybe you could invite this person to start a craft club with you and ask your friends if they would be interested in doing a craft night once a month to make something for their home. The possibilities are endless! The fun about this is that you get to learn with other people. So girls night out just got educational 🙂

Conferences

Check out local conferences or events where experts come to speak or give classes for a day. These are sometimes an investment but may well be worth it to you. You can also make this one a little more social by inviting your spouse or a good friend to attend with you.

There is so much in life that we can learn and benefit from yet we sometimes get stuck in this rut where we know what we know and that’s all we care about or have energy for. Get rid of your mindset that learning takes place at school and become a lifelong learner where learning takes place in every location and situation. Be an example to your children that learning is important, fun, and should be a lifelong endeavor.

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Tell me, what are you going to start with? How do you plan on learning about it? Have you tried any of these ideas or do you have others?

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11 Habits to Make Sure You’re Always on Time

Time SquareI am a chronically tardy person. Yes, I am that friend. The one you’re always waiting on. The one who always has an excuse. The one that you have to tell the movie is at 6, even though it really doesn’t start until 7. I am that friend that probably makes you wonder why you invite me to do things.

Let’s face it, punctuality can be a real struggle. Especially when you have kids (perfect example here). I look back and laugh at how late I was all the time as a single person. Now that I have kids, you can imagine how much worse it is now. However, being on time is really important to me these days and I have gathered together some important points about being punctual that I am striving to implement this year. Maybe you’ll want to try them too. Unless you’re a rockstar mom who always gets there on time with all kids in tow. If that’s the case, maybe you should be the one writing this post 😉

Here are 11 habits that will make sure you’re always on time and transform you into the punctual person you’ve always wanted to be.

 

Change your attitude

watchsquare11. Take responsibility 

The first step to changing your chronically tardy self is to be honest about it. For a long time I was really good about making excuses. Some were legit and others were not. This really stressed me out because I don’t like to tell lies, not even white lies. But I didn’t want people to think they weren’t a priority to me and so I would throw out some story about how the baby blew up his diaper as we were heading out the door and I had to change his clothes. First step in changing your attitude is to take responsibility for the times you are late. Even if it’s a traffic jam, admit you didn’t allow extra time for it like you should have. This kind of accountability stings and it will help motivate you to avoid being late at all.

2. Make it a priority

If you’re going to be on time, it’s going to have to be a priority. Tell yourself that when it’s time to be out the door, you are leaving no matter what isn’t quite done or ready. If that means your hair is half curled, too bad. If your kids’ shoes don’t match, too bad. If you can’t find your phone, too bad. We’ll talk about how to avoid these problems in a minute, but if the reality is one of these kinds of problems or being late, choose to be on time.

3. Notice the benefits

I have a sister who is always on time. I totally admire this about her. When we do things as a family, we rarely ever have to wait on her. We can almost always count on her being on time. She is dependable in her job and people respect her for that. Not only that, she never seems to be in a rush. On the other hand, I am constantly scrambling and still end up being late. The reality is, being on time eliminates so much stress in our lives. When we are chronically late to things, it can take a toll on our stress level. Make a habit out of being on time and you can get rid of that over-rushed feeling you constantly have.

4. Get rid of the fear of being early

My senior year of high school my friend and I aided in the office first hour and I don’t think we were on time more than 3 times the entire year. At one point, one of the secretaries mentioned, nonchalantly, that her father-in-law always said, “I’d rather be an hour early than 5 minutes late.” To which my friend replied, “Why would you want to waste an entire hour of your life being early?”

I have to fight myself to not agree with that statement. I always try to get as much done as I possibly can and I think that has been a major contributor to my tardiness. I would rather do something with the time I might just be sitting and waiting. So I came up with this: Always have something on hand that you can do while you wait. I love having ebooks on my phone so that I always have something to read while I wait. If you have kids, keep a coloring book and crayons in your diaper bag or the car to keep them entertained if you happen to have extra time before an appointment or event. Weigh your options, would you really rather run the risk of being late than having to wait a few minutes for being early? I doubt it.

Don’t underestimate how long it takes to do something

Timer25. Time yourself

Don’t underestimate how long it takes you to get ready, get your kids ready, or load up your car. There are certain apps out there to help you track how long it takes you to do certain things and record that for future reference. I use Time Journal for the iPhone. Or you could just use a timer. If you think it only takes you 10 minutes to shower, you may be forgetting about the time you use before and after you’re actually under the water. Set a timer and remember or record that for future reference.

6. Time your trip

If you usually go to the same places most days (IE school or work) time your trip in the car or bus. If you’re going somewhere you don’t normally go, check your maps app to see the estimated time for the trip. Check traffic and even the weather to time your trip accordingly. Don’t rely on your own estimations until you’re super familiar with the route. And in that case, be honest, not optimistic about how long it will take.

7. Allow 15 minutes extra

We all know there is bound to be a few interruptions along the way and we need to account for those. Most days, you’ll probably use up those extra 15 minutes without even noticing it’s happening. In the rare occasion you arrive 15 minutes early, don’t be afraid. Grab your book and savor those extra minutes.

Prepare ahead of time

Keys main8. Set everything out

The night before, or before you begin to get ready to leave somewhere, set everything out. Set your clothes out, any other items you may need for the day, and make sure your phone, wallet, and keys are by the door. Have your kids put everything they need in their backpacks, set them by the door, and set their clothes out too. This will eliminate the last minute scrambling to pack bags and find keys and missing shoes.

9. Get to bed on time

Establish a nighttime routine that includes setting things out and getting to bed on time. We all know how important rest is and how much easier it is to get out of bed when your alarm goes off if you’re properly rested.

10. Get up on time

Don’t you dare hit that snooze button! If you time your morning and you have to get up at 6 to make it on time, you haven’t accounted for those extra 10 minutes in bed. If you think you’ll be clever and set your alarm 10 minutes earlier so you technically can hit the snooze button and still get up on time, think again. Getting up when our alarm goes off sets the entire tone for our day. If you choose to hit the snooze button instead of getting up it’s like saying to yourself, “I know I committed to getting up at 6 but I don’t take commitments seriously, so I’m going to sleep a little longer.” How do you think that affects the rest of your daily commitments? Really, think about it. This could be one of those keystone habits that when you make it a habit, it improves all areas of your life.

11. Do the most important things first

If it is really important to you to be primped and perfect before leaving the house, allow enough time for that and make sure it’s the first thing you do. If it’s more important to you to leave your house clean, allow enough time for that and make sure it gets done first. Figure out your priorities and take care of those first. By doing that, you will never feel like your goal to be punctual interferes with what’s most important to you. Even if problems arise and you have to leave something undone, the first thing you do will already be done and the less important things can be skipped.

I don’t want to be embarrassed anymore by being that family that walks into church late and disrupts whatever is going on. I don’t want to be constantly scrambling to get out the door and screaming at my kids to hurry. I don’t want to burn with shame when I call the doctor’s office to tell them I’m running late because…well who knows what I’ll come up with. Can you imagine what life would be like if you arrived somewhere with a few minutes to spare? It’s such a rare occasion for me that it’s hard to imagine what it would feel like if that was my new norm. I’m willing to make these changes, are you?

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Let me know in the comments below, I’m curious, are you punctual? How do you do it? If you’re not, what do you think is the most important change for you to make right now?

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